| Mothers & Daughters
Mothers and Daughters –Raising healthy young women today, is no small task, and Kathy has some helpful tools for Moms in those critical years! Kathy Welter-Nichols, CHT, NLP & DHE in Burnaby & Vancouver, British Columbia, assists mothers and daughters in healing out of balance relationships. 604-421-1722 welterk@shaw.ca How does hypnotherapy and NLP help me with my daughter?Using Hypnotherapy & NLP we uncover old unresolved issues from a mothers past that are now being triggered by her daughter, innocently enough, however, it's causing a great deal of discomfort between them, and often turning the home into a war-zone. We use NLP & Hypnotherapy to release old blocks and heal places where beliefs are causing distortions in the relationship. How does it work?Distortions can occur in the relationship, breaks are needed, letting go a must, but every mother wonders, “when is the right time?” We look for evidence to assure ourselves, and yet remain unsure. Relaxation and ways to let go of Fears, Phobias and Anxieties which are often left over unresolved issues from our own youth. Letting go, shifting beliefs, are all messages of this powerful work helping mothers. Peace at last, is possible! How long will my sessions last ?Generally 3-4 sessions and mothers have this under control. There is immediate evidence as the mother daughter relationship shifts and begins to heal. New trust is established and things move forward. It can be the most profound work woman will do, when her daughter enters her young woman-hood. Then is the mothers opportunity to revisit and repair any unresolved issues from her own youth. How will it help my daughter?Mothers recognize when to act, where to listen, where to nurture and most importantly trusting where it's time to let go. The most important gift a mother can give her daughter is building a strong sense of self, self worth, self esteem. Being available to answer some of those questions about sexuality, appropriate dating and questions around use of drugs or alcohol. Mothers need to address their own distortions in thinking about weight, and control of the physical body, which is growing during these years! Many young women believe because their jeans from last summer no longer fit, they are gaining weight. In essence they are just growing! Without affirmations to the contrary some of these beliefs and distortions, coupled with early interactions with boys can give young women very troubled anchors in their young lives which may lead to later problems. Peace at last, is possible! Some comments from mothers Kathy has worked with:"We were in chaos, I wanted to kill my 15 year old, or at least send her away! I didn't want to deal with the day to day power struggles between us! And I could see the wedge between us growing daily! My husband was at his wits end wondering if it was her, or me that had to go! I was frantic, and I knew deep down it wasn't all my daughters fault! Kathy helped us find the places I needed to heal, and then as we did , rather magically the family resumed a loving and healthy environment. I thought it was unsolvable, and it only took a few sessions to gain the new perspectives. And yes, it was both of us! " Jess A. Vancouver "The fights were the worst, I was so angry with her! I couldn't understand why she was acting out as she did and nothing I read worked, I was exhausted, I tried everything! When I first spoke to Kathy and she suggested she and I should meet - I felt a little insulted, after all it was HER that was the problem. After several sessions though, and healing my own traumatic teenaged passage, I could see it was both of us. After several sessions, some quite painful for me, things began to change. We're so grateful". MaryAnn J. BC "I was lost. We had a blended family, my daughter from a first marriage was the oldest. At 17 she seemed like she just wanted to tear us all apart, and it was happening. My X didn't help, he was offering her a home, and I wondered if it was the best thing to do. We had two smaller children at home who seemed terrorized of the violence in the home day to day. Everyone just hiding from the next outburst. My husband was patient, but that was erroding seriously and I knew the marriage could be damaged too. I worked with Kathy from Toronto, via EMAIL and SKYPE for several months, and finally some break throughs for myself. I realized there were problems in my marriage, and I was making them my daughters issues. She was the bad guy. It's been a long haul, separation and a second divorce, but I know I did the right thing, because the other way - well, my daughter might not be with me to day. I still have work to do, but my 19 year old is now heading off to university this fall, and my other two children live in a peaceful home where they know it's safe and they are loved." Janice, Toronto Ontario. "Thanks Kathy, our home life is so much better, and I'm ready to start my own self discovery. I think it's time. I want to know who I am, after raising four children and taking care of my own family...I'm not sure I know who that is anymore. Thanks for everything!" Ruth, Ladner, BC Mothers & Daughters, a two CD Set Workshops :Kathy offers weekend retreats for mothers helping them reconnect to this powerful feminine that we are as women, and discovering once again, the beauty in that. These are deep healing and transformational weekends for women. Contact Kathy to find out more. It's hard to believe our daughters are truly the catalyst for our own deeper healing, however, if we can accept it's time for this healing to occur, and they are showing us just what we need to heal most. Attending one of my weekend workshops will facilitate tremendous healing for you and your family and especially give your daughter the great assistance she needs when entering into these challenging years as a woman. Recommended Reading: Mother Daughter Wisdom - C. Northrup |
