| Mothers & Daughter Workshops for Women of All AgesMonday, 1 October 2007 Mothers and Daughters – Weekend retreats for MothersRaising healthy young women today, is no small task, and Kathy has some helpful tools for Moms in those critical years!
Kathy Welter-Nichols, CHT, NLP & DHE looks at the ancient fairy tale by Grimm's brothers, "Snow White and the Seven Dwarves" as an archetypal base along with other archetypes for mothers raising young daughters today. In doing so, she assists mothers and daughters through those extremely trying years of puberty and young womanhood. As we review and recover our own losses in youth, we become available to participate fully in our daughters, ensuring their safe passage through what can be a difficult time.
The most important gift a mother can give her daughter is building a strong sense of self, self worth, self esteem.
....but do we? Are we a catalyst for her inner growth, self esteem, positive identification with her own inner feminine? ....or are we so confused and envious we miss this, and instead see her as primary competition to be dispelled and eliminated. ....and the good mother, who only wants the best, and demonstrates strong feminine skills, rising to the top of her chosen field poses another threat. The young woman struggles so much to leave the good mother, and find herself. Sometimes her grief is greater than any. In these workshops you will:Share with other mothers your experiences, Learn new techniques for disarming problems before they become huge issues Encourage, mentor, and discipline with a difference Remove the conflicts around your own issues, fears and anxieties Reframe the beliefs you have that are blocking good communications Learn new communications skillsYou will learn how to implement these kinds of discussions without anger, drama or unncessary stress: Sexuality, drugs, alcohol, dating protocols, teen relationships, balance of school and social activities Set appropriate guidelines and help your daughter maintain them Set boundaries for the family, other members, pets and personal space for all Work, money and age appropriate skills for introducing The Car, licensing, requirements, boundaries, safe use Home Life and it's requirements, participation Ask yourself: Are you available answer some of those questions about sexuality, appropriate dating and use of drugs or alcohol. How do you feel about your daughters control of her physical body, which is growing during these years. Do you remind her often, "you are just like me". Do you find yourself recounting your own youth to her, over and over "well it was good enough for me " When we are engaging these language patterns with our daughters, we tell them what is happening to them won't be any better than what we got. And we secretly want them to have the same experience, because ours was so miserable. Why should she have better? Do you recognize the signs and symptoms of bulimia or anorexia? Do you recognize the signs and symptoms of bulimia or anorexia?What would you do about it if you did? Do you believe it's a medical issue? Do you think girls with this problem, have problem home lives? Have issues with their mothers? Have control issues? What do you know about your daughters eating habits? How do you appropriately discourage and appropriately encourage? In other words how do you get results from a teen ager that thinks you know nothing? The most important gift a mother can give her daughter is building a strong sense of self, self worth, self esteem. Do you know how to achieve this in your child? Are you aware of your own self esteem and sense of self worth? What are the stories you tell yourself about how much you value you? Think about your own childhood, your teen years...who was on your side? Who was there for you, no matter what?
When mother is calm and available, and offering much less advice, restriction and letting daughter choose; and daughter is self assured, not feeling pressured and making her own good choices, these years can become the foundations for a life long friendship and support between both mother and daughter.
A few words from Kathy:
“Having had the pleasure & challenge of raising two beautiful young women myself, who were perhaps the foundational guides for this work, I am pleased to offer these workshops and know they will help both mother and daughter find new ways to meet each other, trust each other, communicate with each other.
Today’s challenges for young women ask so much more of them than just a single generation before. Competition, work, education, are all areas many mothers are fearful around. “Will my daughter be good enough, how much do I motivate her to get her to be more than I ?” And yet many times for mothers, they want this and yet they are also inadvertently undermining their daughters through instilling their own fears and lack of self confidence in them.
"I’m happy to share this with mothers everywhere, who are endeavoring to raise a daughter that is self confident, self assured, believing she can do it! No matter what happens to them, they find the resources within to guide them , and we become simply the reflecting pool, when or as needed”
Contact me for upcoming dates. Contact me for upcoming dates. Workshops for Women on the path to self discovery: Workshops for women looking to find themselves, to recover from some of lifes challenges and to re assert themselves in new and positive ways. New Techniques for self discovery, sharing and learning are all part of this amazing experience for women! Workshops for women in menopause and peri-menopause:We're here, we made it, and what do we do with all this energy? Time for connection, understanding how the body is changing - yet again! Letting go of the past, letting go of the life as we thought it would be. Coming to peace with what has been. Story telling, time to share who you are and receive new insights into just where and what might be the best adventure in your journey! The best is yet to come, because we are creating it. "...where you go, leave a trail, that those you love, might someday find the crumbs and know they are nearly home"Workshops for Women of All Ages-
Kathy Welter Nichols, CHT, NLP & DHE
Certified HypnoBirthing Child Care Educator.
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Monday, 4 June 2007  
A word about the dads! There is a group of men out there, you know the ones. The ones that are sure they understand their wives pretty well, however, have also seen those same rational women lose it at different stages of their relationship. And it's pretty clear to them, they might need to some assistance as they navigate these uncharted waters. A lot of men are running old anchoring experiences. Knowing how you manage your mother or your sister, or don't. Remembering other moments when things have been intense in the relationship. That night in the storm, or maybe that time when you were mountain climbing together, or making that decision to relocate to the west coast of Canada... Maybe she'll remain calm cool and collected, the same way she managed our wedding without a hitch? Or maybe she'll be as wild as she was those few days leading up to it? Generally it's been my experience the dads show up. They show up knowing there's going to be some challenges, they don't need a lot of preparation for it, generally they read what's needed, show up for the classes, and do the work, however, it's at the moment of birthing when some lights begin to go on, of just what they've gotten themselves into. Some fathers suddenly realize, I'm about to be a father! OMG! Some fathers feel it's a slide, we'll manage it all, no worries, I'm confident in her...here we go. Then all crazy lets lose and sometimes the dad is there holding his newborn son while the doctors are working over his wife, and he's not sure she's going to make it.... Life gets challenging. Most men have no idea what really goes on in a birthing room, because they've only been there once before and everyone else was in charge that time too. So again, it seems there's not a lot they can do this time, either, it's all happening to her, really. I'd like to share, however, that this is your baby too. And knowing what's happening to her, at each stage of the birthing process is going to help you navigate and make good decisions that will solidify your relationship and give her greater confidence in you as her partner, and as the baby's trusted other parent. Generally, I would say that HypnoBirthing helps the fathers as much as the mothers. Often she's reading all the books, and the fathers don't really have much information passed along. Some mothers want them to know everything. Some mothers will only feed them the information they want them to know, like a big filter, reminding everyone "you're very busy". Essentially, you want to know. In the birthing room, it's going to be you making those decisions because she's going to be busy. If you don't know what the process is, those decisions could cost precious seconds. My experience with the fathers is they've enjoyed the experience of learning about what birthing is all about, and they've enjoyed gaining new perspective on their wives. We also provide sessions for fathers to be, and AFTER CARE for Dads. I've had more than one father remind me there's just a chance I'm going to see to much in here. I want my sexual interest for my wife to be strong afterwards. For some dads, this seems a last thought, for some fathers, it can be critical! Learning the new techniques through NLP, Hypnotherapy & HypnoBirthing will give you new tools to manage yourself and your wife, and the new life you will have with your baby!
Bookings are available with either Kathy or Harry to resolve any conflicts prior to, or after the birth! BOOK A SESSION NOW: 604-421-1722 Read more... | For parents with a second child coming.
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