“I had two experiences with Harry and Kathy, Shaman Inside and Deep Trance States. So I say THANK YOU again to Harry and Kathy for what they gave to me.” Paola, Italy 2010
“amazing, it changed my life” AD, Vancouver 2013
“First, let me begin by saying how truly grateful and honoured I feel to have shared this most inspiring journey with you all. More and more I am convinced that everything happens for a reason, and had I not been faced with these challenges and reached my breaking point, I would have never met you guys and made these wonderful discoveries and changes. I am a new person now thanks to you. I really felt loved and cared for. Kathy, Thank you and Harry for this amazing experience! You guys are the best! Much love” Desiree, Vancouver 2013
The emotional growth I attained myself in that very short space of time without an intention to do any personal work. I have learnt so much and forgiven so very much that I have come away with a new way of “being” in this world. I now find patience “effortless and easy”. After 24 hrs travelling it had its moments but I understood those emotions in that context. I now hold a view of the world that I can “be in the moment”. Most poignantly this shows with my children my answer is it was worth significantly more. I would happily pay at least three times over. The decision to put my fears and worries aside to do this was without doubt one of the better decisions of my life. Thank-you.
Often we say we want something, Many of us don’t even get started on it because we fear we won’t get it.
What does your heart say about the matter? Stop for a moment, ask the question and “listen”. The heart only answers in the “now” frame, so if it’s not in the present time, its still the mind talking. The mind is endless, hoping to offer helpful antidotes to life’s quandaries. It’s always searching and seeking… the heart tells a different story… are you listening
Did someone tell you, something was too expensive and wasn’t meant for you?
That you can’t have it,
Can’t have what you want
Laughed or made fun of your hopes and dreams.
Establish a new internal mantra, speak these to yourself out loud so your voice gets strong saying them
I have a successful business
I’m married to an amazing man
I deserve to be happy
The only person who can build my confidence and self belief is me
Outside praise will never feel good enough, until I praise & reward myself
Tell the truth, use straight talk, avoid embellishments and distorting the facts –
Your deeper self is always listening
I am good enough
I am enough
I am valued and I value myself
I deserve better…
Choose not to take on negative comments from others – just leave them where they are – you have a choice.
Self worth and confidence is a skill you keep developing ACTION IS THE FIRST STEP
I’m not sure…
And because I’m not really into taking action – 90 days is the goal
Break it down into daily habits or smaller tasks and then lets time line it!
What’s the project? Now Create a To do List:
List what’s needed in the project
Take the project, and then run it to the final day, now look back to the beginning, right NOW
Now back to front, look back from that completed moment, and watch as every item
Drops into the “Time Line” Each day, what do you need to do to accomplish to get to the finished project?
Seek out people who can help you, encourage you, and make things easier.
What do you need to do to create this project ?
Decide Now, what must you do first
Small steps, take the first one, set up the plan… the goal, and then list your project in steps
Numerous studies have indicated the many physiological benefits of meditation, and the latest one comes from Harvard University. (Check out Dr. Herbert Benson, and his work with Meditation from Harvard University. He labeled this state of mind as the 4th brain state naming it the “relaxation response”. KWN)
An eight week study conducted by Harvard researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) determined that meditation literally rebuilds the brains grey matter in just eight weeks. It’s the very first study to document that meditation produces changes over time in the brain’s grey matter. (Check out the studies done by Dr. Benson KWN)
“Although the practice of meditation is associated with a sense of peacefulness and physical relaxation, practitioners have long claimed that meditation also provides cognitive and psychological benefits that persist throughout the day. This study demonstrates that changes in brain structure may underlie some of these reported improvements and that people are not just feeling better because they are spending time relaxing.” – (1) Sara Lazar of the MGH Psychiatric Neuro-imaging Research Program and a Harvard Medical School Instructor in Psychology
The study involved taking magnetic resonance images (MRI) of the brain’s of 16 study participants two weeks prior to participating in the study. MRI images of the participants were also taken after the study was completed.
“The analysis of MR images, which focused on areas where meditation-associated differences were seen in earlier studies, found increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.” (1)
For the study, participants engaged in meditation practices every day for approximately 30 minutes. These practices included focusing on audio recordings for guided meditation, non-judgmental awareness of sensations, feelings and state of mind.
“It is fascinating to see the brain’s plasticity and that, by practicing meditation, we can play an active role in changing the brain and can increase our well-being and quality of life. Other studies in different patient populations have shown that meditation can make significant improvements in a variety of symptoms, and we are now investigating the underlying mechanisms in the brain that facilitate this change.” – (1)Britta Holzel, first author of the paper and a research fellow at MGH and Giessen University in Germany
How To Meditate
A common misconception about meditation is that you have to sit a certain way or do something in particular to achieve the various benefits that it can provide. All you have to do is place yourself in a position that is most comfortable to you. It could be sitting cross-legged, sitting on a couch etc, it’s your choice. If, however, you lie down, or stay in bed in the morning and try to meditate, you will most likely fall back to sleep. What’s the difference between sleep and meditation? Meditation is a deeper brain wave state than sleep. Simple, you want the deepest state you can experience in Meditation.
Another common misconception about meditation people get caught up in, and discourage their own attempts, is telling themselves they have to have “no thoughts”. Instead, know the mind is always thinking thoughts, running movies, checking on what it’s doing next etc. It’s a busy referential system; we just don’t have to “listen” to it all the time. Instead… allow the thoughts, and bring your attention back to your breath. “There’s another thought bubble –”. KWN
“You will have to understand one of the most fundamental things about meditation: that no technique leads to meditation. The old so-called techniques and the new scientific biofeedback techniques are the same as far as meditation is concerned. Meditation is not a by-product of any technique. Meditation happens beyond mind. No technique can go beyond mind.” – Osho
What do I want? I know what I don’t want… and that wasn’t good either,
So what do I really want?
When we are clear and know what we want, it’s really easy to pick off the stuff that does not work. And having some support in figuring that out often comes through “talking it through” with someone that does not have an investment in your decisions or choices. An impartial third party. As a “wise woman” once told me, “if you just let people talk long enough, they find their own answers.”
Then you will not end up going through 6 months or a year of more of the same, trying to get a different outcome, instead you see the patterns and you can easily say “no this is not what I want” and reach a better decision before you get hooked into more of the same.
And that’s the only match up you want to be going for. All the others are various levels of internal negotiation and denial to try and get what you want, and that creates massive delusions and illusions, drama and
self sacrifice, all in the hopes of eventually, maybe, hopefully getting a little of what you want.
We spend our youth chasing , making and subjecting ourselves to lots of drama, and when we get older it seems reasonable to – live alone, and accept what little bits and pieces come along – declaring “I’m so much happier than I was when I was young”. Of course you are, you are alone and happily making choices just for you. What if there was a way to do this differently? No sacrifices and no giving up, and finding yourself living life sharing the adventure with someone that would not ask you or want you to give up anything?
So there are some ways to secure the shifts and changes you might be looking for, however, if you don’t know what they are… you won’t know when you get them.
And believe me knowing all this, nothing is perfect, there is no perfect relationship, however, if the majority of what you want, the big things are covered, then the little things are so easy for you to take care of.
What we most want in our life is someone we can….
Trust? Respect? Like? Be-friend? Love? Care for? That will give us the same in return?
Physically attracted to, have fun with? Maybe choose to go the distance with each other?
Through the mirrors of relationship figure out what is mine to still work on? Witness my life and respect me enough to at least see me, hear me, and love me?
We can blame our parents, our teachers and keep ourselves a victim of our own choices and behaviours, and so many do. And it’s ok to do that too, it’s just a difference “choice point”.
When women figure this out – it’s wonderful, they are like honey to bees, because they just keep dancing out of the reach of the relationships that just will not work…because they know what they want.
And the right bee is out there, and when they share their honey together, it really is magic. Really.
When we ask: What am I doing? That’s when real change is possible.
To get there, we can’t just say – oh I’m over my childhood stuff with mom and dad , cleared and released. Instead we drive forward for :
Forgiven, and the free-flowing gratitude for our parents, who held to their steadfast behaviours that caused me to “wake up” and say – “hey I want something different here”
Go Ahead: Ask the questions:
“Who Am I?”
What do I want?
What would it look like?
What stops me from getting that?
What do I have to deal with in my own behaviours?
Am I 100% satisfied with myself?
Do I know how to go with the flow,
Let things go?
Relieve stress and anxiety, tension and even discharge anger ?
What do I have to do to get all this?
What steps do I take?
What books do I read?
Am I worth committing to? Am I the person I know I can be – all the time?
So, a set of goals, a bit of work, some commitments to taking this work personally…
Then what happens next is really up to you, because at the very least you will not be afraid of your personal history, you will have shifted that forever, into personal awareness so you never again find yourself stuck without resources to help yourself.
The crazy thing I found out in my self discovery process is this NLP training we do, and I took, is designed specifically to hit these targets, to create awareness and open us to our real self, perhaps the scariest aspect of knowing oneself is connecting to it all.
Some of the keys to self discovery are letting of of those crazy beliefs we’ve agreed to:
Masterfully handle family issues, with awareness of your own choice points
No longer controlled or manipulated by guilt or anger
Skillfully design and create the life you want
Orientate yourself to your goals and moving towards what you want, instead of away from, because of fear, guilt, lack of confidence in yourself
Know what your personal goals are
Set a campaign to achieve them in a timeline that is yours, then projecting and future pacing it into your future
Knowing what you want, and celebrating when you get it – celebrating the self, rather than expecting others to
Knowing the difference between sorting from the inside, to sorting from the outside – both are essential to navigating life, and experience, however, there are time, when only you and yourself know what is truly needed
Achieving milestone goals
Remaining active in creating the life you want
Adjusting what isn’t working quickly and efficiently rather than hoping things will change
Masterful personal change work starts with knowing what you want.
This is not a therapy, NLP doesn’t work like that, NLP operates somewhere much deeper on the level of knowing how we communicate with each other. How you communicate in your relationships whether business or personal relationship or even specifically to yourself,
NLP provides the tools to help you reveal your personal communication style, the way you process information, how you view the world, what your beliefs are, changing those historical markers that you used to believe created your problems. Getting real with who you are, helping yourself first, and feeling amazing about it.
NLP doesn’t hold a behaviour judgement either, it doesn’t need to. Leave that one to the therapist’s chair.
NLP steadfastly observes communications and the process we use to achieve the outcome, whether we like it or not, or even want to change something, NLP doesn’t hold an opinion on that.
It simply says “This is what you are doing to achieve this”. Now, “is it what you want?”
Want to change it? Ok, then we use the same tools and skill sets to achieve that too.
So think about this, where are you right now? Do you know what you want? What’s important to you? How many times have you stopped yourself from getting what you want? If you speak your truth what happens? If you say “this is what I want” how do you feel about that? What if you have an opportunity before you – do you back away fearful of the challenges? Tell yourself I’m not good enough? No one will listen to me? My father said I was …. My mother always….
So what’s the point of those stories in your life? Are you ready to change them? For good?
Contact me and lets get started – after all this is Your Life.