Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – PTSD, ANXIETY & Phobia’s – we can help you

Hypnosis and NLP really help us relieve unnecessary fears, tension and worry!

Hypnotherapy and NLP

Anxiety & excessive fears can affect you!
Anxiety is one of those words that can mean so many things to different people. This page will lead you to more specific pages on problems associated with anxiety. Some are physical symptoms of anxiety such as excessive blushing, excessive sweating and panic attacks. Additionally, we work with various contexts for anxiety such as exam nerves and being worried about interviews and wedding nerves. Each will give you information about the feelings associated with anxiety such as lack of confidence, guilt, loneliness, procrastination, shyness and stress. There can be a large overlap between these issues.

How we can help various forms of ‘anxiety’.

• Anxiety Disorder – we give treatment for the variations of general anxiety disorder. We work to discover how and when anxiety occurs for you and retrain your thinking so that you become calmer and more resourceful.

• Blushing –
treatment for excessive blushing with hypnotherapy and NLP. This is one of the most common conditions that we treat. This is another example of a problem that gets worse the more you think about it, a kind of self-fulfilling prophesy that can often be re-conditioned very quickly.

• Confidence –
You can gain self-confidence in whatever area of your life you need it. Whether you call it self confidence or self-esteem, we train you to think differently, more usefully, and more positively.

• Exam Nerves –
We train your mind to begin coping and feeling resourceful well before you take the examination. The treatment is also useful to assist you in your ability to study effectively. If you have been one of those people who has continually underperformed in exams due to exam stress, then we can help you.

• Excessive Sweating –
Very often, the less you worry about excessive sweating, the less you sweat. Hyperhidrosis is therefore treatable to the extent that your anxiety about sweating too much is programming you in such a way as to make the problem worse.

• Guilt – There are a truly vast variety of ways that excessive guilt can manifest itself to the point of having a continued and negative effect on someone’s life. We help you to learn from the past, let it go and move forward in your life.

• Interview Nerves –
Being cool, calm and collected is a state of mind that can be learned. We help you to condition your neurology to more automatically go into resourceful states during interviews, and we train you to stop worrying about your interview in advance

• Loneliness –
Feelings of isolation are not necessarily connected with the proximity of other people. Many people experience extreme loneliness even when surrounded by crowds of others.

• Panic Attacks –
Treatment for panic attacks (anxiety attacks). These attacks are usually, although not always, happening in a certain context, in other words, they occur in certain circumstances. Even when there is no full-blown panic attack, the fear of having one – pre-anxiety- can be debilitating in and of itself.

• Procrastination –
A person who procrastinates to the point of realizing they need help is probably ‘putting things off’ in very many areas of their life.

• Shyness – Social Anxiety
Shyness, sometimes given the label ‘social anxiety’, can be a crippling condition – isolating the person from society and preventing them from finding a partner and finding a job, or getting a better job. It CAN be overcome.

• Stress Management –
‘Stress Management’ is the expression often used by people who offer tools to help you feel less stressed and to cope with stressful feelings as they arise.

• Stress Relief For Care Givers, People looking after a friend or relative with conditions that can be debilitating such as Alzheimer’s, cancer and other conditions, often find themselves living their lives with little or no time for themselves.

• Wedding Nerves – Banish wedding nerves and have the best day of your life.

• ‘Releasing Fear’ by Kathy Welter Nichols Brilliant CD/MP3 to deal with fear – Contact me here for purchase of the MP3

Generally, I see clients 3-4 times to resolve Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Contact me here for more details.

We can help contact us here.


Birth Affirmations

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Birth Affirmations by Kathy Welter -Nichols is now a beautifully mastered MP3 Order yours today!

     This new recording by Kathy is exceptional dedicated to one of her moms that is having twins…these affirmations will help you rest, relax and enjoy your pregnancy and birth! And they are a great assistance to those that are assisting you! As you listen to these affirmations over the months, preparing your body, mind and spirit for the transition to mother-hood, your birthing partners can use the CD’s or they can repeat these loving affirmations for you, to you, whispering them to you, encouraging you to go deep into your inner self letting your body do the essential work for you. Relax and enjoy this masterful CD by Kathy. Order yours today

I trust my body

My body was made for this

I listen to my body and I respond easily and effortlessly.

I know the less drama I allow from myself or others, the happier I will be and my baby will be.

I easily remove myself from the dramatics of others, protecting myself and my baby.

I wait on my body to direct my next breath, my next surge, my next release of breath, my next inhale.

I am connected to my infant; my baby knows my heart beat, my breathing, my voice, the feeling of my love.

My body is perfect for birthing, it grew my baby all the while I just went about my normal living.

I trust it’s wisdom and knowledge.

I trust it’s ancient structure, and I give birth easily and effortlessly as I trust my body to do the work.

I am celebrating myself, my life and my coming birthing day

I see myself in perfect health

I affirm myself as a good mother

I am meeting my daily energy needs, I exercise regularly, I sleep and rest, I take in good foods and plenty of water

I choose to avoid unnecessary sugars and choose instead healthy sources such as fruit.

I am accepting my birth, my body as it is, and myself as a new mother

I take care with comments from others, and recognize even well-wishers can inadvertently give me suggestions that might diminish my belief in myself. I take myself away from these people quickly and easily and without dramatics.

I learn the greatest “pattern interruption” that I have is my blessed need to use the ladies room, and I use it whenever a situation is not to my liking.

I lovingly accept my changing body

I easily recognize where stress is coming from and I learn to release that easily.

I use proper foods in good proportion that is just right for nurturing this new life inside me.

I accept that others may not be as focused as I am on the baby, and I release any concerns about what others are doing and I choose to take care of myself first.

I notice when I get tense, and I consciously relax those areas of my body.

I start with relaxing my shoulders, and breathing all the way down “to my toes”.

I remind myself to relax my whole body often.

Whenever I feel tension in my back, I breathe into it, and relax.

I relax each muscle …one at a time.

My body is beautiful; I have a loving and caring team of professionals around me through my pregnancy and birth

My body is growing a new life inside

I am proud of my body and I  trust it.

I trust it to add all the toes and fingers and to choose the right eye color and hair, and to make a strong heart, and lungs and body. All I have to do is continue to breathe and my body will do all the rest!

I accept each stage of the pregnancy as a new wonderful adventure.

I accept each stage of the birth as a new wonderful adventure

I accept all the states of motherhood as this same wonderful adventure

I love myself, I accept myself, just the way I am.

As I prepare for labor I remember I am in control

I trust my body, I love my body! It’s just amazing! I am an amazing being.

I wait on what is best for my baby and I let my baby set the pace

My mind and body are calm

I don’t have to do this perfectly, or like anyone else, or even like my mother.

I’m ready to become my own woman, the mother of my child, this child.

I stop my mind from running to thoughts of worry or fears, by listening to my relaxation CD’s and using positive thinking as my first affirmation.

I notice when my thoughts are fearful, and I choose to change them.I master the art of the re-frame, quickly and easily

I change the message of the thoughts as I say the following:

“even though I’m feeling unsure, a little fearful, and a little vulnerable, even though I’m not sure of what is coming or how I will be, I totally love and accept myself and my baby”.

I feel so good about this I know it’s going to empower me and I know when I’ve my baby is in my arms,  I will have made a personal transition in my journey as a woman. I look forward to this transition, and I’m excited about this next phase of my life.

Order this fantastic affirmation MP3 for yourself, or others you know are expecting!

 

Our New Years Meditation

What’s in your New Years Vision

Our New Years Eve Preparation goes like this:

During the afternoon of the 31st, we sit, meditate and move into the heart space, breathing deep into the heart, and consider our creative source for the year ahead,

Here are some suggested questions you might like to ask of your heart:

  • Questions you might like to contemplate on New Year’s Eve

    1. A journal is always a good idea

      Is there anything from 2016 you would like to repeat in 2017?

    2. What do you want to create this year?
    3. Did you include some new strategies in your life, like meditation, living from gratitude? Do you want to this year?
    4. Was there a specific and purposeful piece of wisdom you gained this year?
    5. Any special teachers or new experiences that shifted your consciousness?
    6. What do you want more than anything else right now? Let your heart feel it fully.
    7. What areas of learning and education are you going to continue to pursue this year?
    8. Any people you want to meet this year?
    9. How much income do you want to manifest this year?
    10. Any improvements you want to make in your own life now?
    11. Anything else you know you really want to create this year?
  • Meditate for 30 minutes into the New Year, resonating with all you have set in place and allow it to be released with a command “This or something better”.

You may not remember all the things you set in motion, however, as they begin to flow into your life, like a snapshot in time, suddenly you  recall what they were .

 

PostPartum Recovery

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The bonds formed now will last a lifetime

How we help you with PostPartum & Post Natal Care:

For women that are unsure, or have had a legacy of difficult births handed down through their family, these sessions with Kathy are life saving. Resume the deep bonding with your baby, recover and resume your relationships with others too.

Understanding we are 70% environment and possibly up to 30% of our DNA relives the fear intellectually, however, to secure your place in the birthing room, Kathy uses, NLP & Hypnosis to restructure essential beliefs that are creating issues that just aren’t necessarily real!

If you have the slightest fears, it’s better to deal with these, THIS side of the birthing room, and ensure you have the clear head, mind and heart for your birthing day!

Examples:

  • Clearing mother and daughter issues
  • Clearing father & daughter issues
  • Clearing sibling issues
  • Clearing family of origin issues
  • Clearing fear of failure and so much more…

These are all examples of one on one sessions Kathy has done for women needing to be fully free to be themselves going into one of the most powerful life experiences they will have! She ensures you “pick up your power”, empowering yourself!

Sessions are usually 60-90 minutes in length and are in addition to other courses or labor support.

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Releasing Fears MP3 By Kathy Welter-Nichols

Hypnotherapy for Post Partum

“The Body Unconscious is where Life Bubbles Up in us”.  D.H. Lawrence.

Traumatic Birth Recovery – 

How can you help me?

Difficult births are possible and do happen even with all the extensive planning and training, it can leave a mother feeling like her birth was not the way she wanted it at all. Taking the time to reframe this early after the birth, allows the mother to regain her balance and focus and stay on task with the many demands her new born is going to ask of her.

I use hypnotherapy and NLP to assist my mothers in reframing the birth so it does not disturb her emotional recovery, and her relationship and bonding with the new infant. Time, patience and healing.

Loss of an Infant

If I know of someone struggling, how can I help?

This is an area of deep personal spiritual growth and takes time for healing. Helping parents to let go requires training in areas of bereavement. I have extensive training in this area. For assistance or consultation, please contact me at 604-421-1722  or email: Kathy

If someone you know is struggling with loss or depression following the birth of an infant, notice the signs and encourage them to get some help. It can make all the difference in their lives and the life of their newborn.

Signs of Post Partum stress or depression: 

All mothers are tired after the strenuous energy of a birth, however, sometimes it’s more than just recovering from a birth, sometimes things happened that the mom is just not recovering well.

MOTHERS NEEDS:

To feel safe, as she allows herself to explore her feelings and her thoughts. These two are highly connected and during birth, she is highly suggestible. Therefore, the statements, the looks, the beliefs that she experiences through her birth can often leave her feeling lost, a failure and fearful for both herself and her infant.

SOME SIGNS OF DEPRESSION: 

  • No Joy, no happiness with her infant – the “good enough mother” but not the joy and love in being a mother
  • A “blunted” mother, sad, motionless, fatigued, distant from her baby and her family and even herself.
  • Angry, Unnecessary fears, negative thinking
  • Not sleeping, emotional, and unable to cope with baby’s needs
  • Or fear of leaving baby unattended even for a moment
  • Severe dreams interrupting sleep
  • Not eating, finding everything extremely negative
  • Not showering or maintaining self care
  • Disinterest in the baby, good enough, but not loving or interested in the infant.
  • Disinterest in the family life
  • Lack of attention when speaking to her, anxiety, not available for intimate relationships
  • Sleeping through babies cries
  • Not wanting to leave the house
  • Shortness of temper or completely lack of emotional response

These can be signs of postpartum depression and are easily attended to without the involvement of drug therapies, which can be harmful to baby.

How Can Hypnotherapy Help PostPartum Depression?

Not unlike, PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrom, with similarities, operating at a “machine pace” the residual disappointment of chilbirth, traumatic interventions,  & fear, overwhelms the mother’s nervous system.

Essentially 3-4 sessions of hypnotherapy will rebalance the new mothers brain chemistry so that her natural internal system simply “re-boots”.  When we have long periods of interrupted or shorten sleeping, the brain does not release the levels of  serotonin and endorphins  needed which we generally get during a regular 8-10 hour nights sleep.

When that is interferred with over longer periods of time, this interruption can create distortions in the body and the brain.

Hypnotherapy allows the mother to achieve the deep state needed to “re-start” the brain chemistry and after 3-4 sessions over a few days time, her own internal system will come back to it’s full state.

Kathy Welter-Nichols, is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, HypnoBirthing certified educator and a Post Partum Doula

She also provides Labour Support and  offers MBMY /training programs for new parents.  604-421-1722  

Living in Turbulent Times

A metaphor for our times:

There is a ton of this stuff available to us out “there” in the collective right now – everyone at some level is lifting the lid on their patience levels and letting it rip at whomever and whatever touches the latest trigger.

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Storm Clouds Brewing

Turbulence, we all experience it when flying. From smooth to suddenly  bumpy, unsettled air, and pockets of ups and downs, and the captain warns us, we’re into it, take your seats, and put your seatbelt on, we’re going into rough air.

We bounce and jar our way through it, coming out the other side somewhat stressed, anxious, “is that coming back again”?

We observe others who spilled drinks, are rushing for the bathroom, and feel panicked and anxious for them too. The attendants are trying to calm everyone, like our own inner resources are trying to flood the system with feel good chemicals to help take down the adrenaline response that has just flooded through the system.

It takes about 40-45 minutes to bring it around, and then resume somewhat normal, however, altered enough from the encounter to feel wary of the next encounter.

The brain stores the memory loops so when something similar happens again, the triggers are ready to fire off and they often are firing off, just in anticipation of the upcoming turbulence.

The media reports the daily chaos, reaching for headlines it’s winds the listening public up to a frenzy of turbulent emotions, fearing the next moment is truly going to trigger the end of life as we know it.

Anxiety is rife in the consciousness, and what can anyone do about this?

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Reflections

We all know that when turbulence is encountered in air travel, often the pilot advises, “there’s jet stream here, just above us and I’m going to move us into it, where the ride is going to smooth out so you can all relax and enjoy the flight”

Just like that, things smooth out, and in addition to smoothing out, everyone knows the jet stream, takes less fuel, and you can move much faster on fewer resources. Often you arrive at your destination earlier too.

The jet stream. Easier flow, no turbulence, everyone is calm, rested on arrival and using much less fuel too.

Where is the jet stream in your life? Everyone has access to this “jet stream” we all have it. We even know where it is too. Its when we feel calm, peaceful, and we are very much disconnected from any of the turbulence around us.

We are in the Flow, in the Now, in the moment where all the resources are working together to make things easy and effortless.

Do you know where to find the turbulence in your life?

Well it’s often there in the media and news, we just can’t do anything about it. We will experience some of the results of that turbulence but really there is nothing we can do to affect it. We are passengers along for the ride, that turbulence is not in our lives, it’s over there, we can go into it, and bring it into our lives, and feel the rock and roll of turbulence from others…or…

We have a choice. Yes we do. We can resume our personal “jet stream” and resume flow, focus, attention to what we want, and let of other peoples behaviours, and aggression. That’s turbulence – and it’s drama!

Where do you find drama in your life? How do you manifest it and develop it, talk about it, expand it make it bigger, add to your story? Tell it from that place of deleting, distorting and generalizing the details.

When you find yourself in turbulence are you aware you have a choice and can do something different? With whom does this turbulence generally take place?

What can you do about it in the moment?

It’s like an accident, keep staring into it, and you just might pile into it too.

Instead, step back, become aware of the turbulence. It’s going to feel like : Have to, Must, They Should, How terrible, How upsetting, How dramatic…

And those kinds of statements are going to drive the turbulence into a frenzy. They feed turbulent behaviour. They feed turbulent beliefs, and they drop you like a stone, from the Jet Stream into rocking and rolling around, wanting the agony to stop!

When you experience the feeling of turbulence, what is your first step?

Ask yourself some questions:

Am I aware I’ve entered into the turbulence and I’m feeling the reactions to it.

Am I aware I am telling my story with greater and greater drama? Am I aware that I’m kind of enjoying this, so long as it doesn’t get any worse. When it gets worse, because turbulence does, as drama increases, turbulence does too; you find yourself reaching out for reinforcements.

Not the kind that suggests you get into the Jet Stream and stay there, if they suggest such an unsupportive option and refuse to join you in the turbulence, you often will attack them, for their ignorance about the turbulence.

Any suggestion to step into the Jet Stream can be taken as a turbulent act against your better judgement. WHAT? I’m not creating this, it’s them. Ok, then let them have the turbulence, and get back into your “jet stream” – can you do that? Will you?

Will you stop right now, assess “yes this is turbulence, and it’s so unnecessary” and choose, Jet Stream.

Remember the benefits:

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Peace

Use less fuel, Get there faster, feel relaxed and calm, a sense of peace, even serenityAs the drama fads away to the turbulence, and you are simply shifted to an entirely different place, state and awareness. Life is good. It really is.

So wait, is this not just turning our back on the important issues of the day?

No that would be more turbulence,  just turbulence, notice how it wants to bounce you around, and push everyone’s buttons, push the guild, the shame, the “you have to do something about this” buttons… to get you to leave the jet stream and come on down to the level of turbulence.  How awful is it really?

It’s just turbulence, hot air and cold air, anger, and freezing others out. Just turbulence. Just air. And the Jet Stream is a solid safe, friendly comfortable, fuel efficient way to resume normal and stay focused on what is important to you.

What do you choose in your life?

If it’s turbulence do you know how to leave it behind and get into the Jet Stream quickly, effortlessly, just like the pilots do?

If you refuse the Jet Stream ask yourself what is more important than expecting a great life, and a great ride?

You paid the same price everyone else did to get on this flight, so aren’t you entitled to the same great smooth, effortless ride?

The Jet Stream… it’s the only way to fly!

New Beginnings

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Do you ?

What do I want? I know what I don’t want… and that wasn’t good either,

So what do I really want?

When we are clear and know what we want, it’s really easy to pick off the stuff that does not work. And having some support in figuring that out often comes through “talking it through” with someone that does not have an investment in your decisions or choices. An impartial third party. As a “wise woman” once told me, “if you just let people talk long enough, they find their own answers.”

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Then you  will not end up going through 6 months or a year of more of the same, trying to get a different outcome, instead you see the patterns and you can easily say “no this is not what I want” and reach a better decision before you get hooked into more of the same.

And that’s the only match up you want to be going for. All the others are various levels of internal negotiation and denial to try and get what you want, and that creates massive delusions and illusions, drama and
self sacrifice, all in the hopes of eventually, maybe, hopefully getting a little of what you want.   

We spend our youth chasing , making and subjecting ourselves to lots of drama, and when we get older it seems reasonable to – live alone, and accept what little bits and pieces come along – declaring “I’m so much happier than I was when I was young”. Of course you are, you are alone and happily making choices just for you. What if there was a way to do this differently? No sacrifices and no giving up, and finding yourself living life sharing the adventure with someone that would not ask you or want you to give up anything?

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Shared times

So there are some ways to secure the shifts and changes you might be looking for, however, if you don’t know what they are… you won’t know when you get them.

And believe me knowing all this, nothing is perfect, there is no perfect relationship, however, if the majority of what you want, the big things are covered, then the little things are so easy for you to take care of.

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I trust myself

What we most want in our life is someone we can….

Trust? Respect? Like? Be-friend? Love? Care for? That will give us the same in return?
Physically attracted to, have fun with? Maybe choose to go the distance with each other?
Through the mirrors of relationship figure out what is mine to still work on? Witness my life and respect me enough to at least see me, hear me, and love me?

We can blame our parents, our teachers and keep ourselves a victim of our own choices and behaviours, and so many do. And it’s ok to do that too, it’s just a difference “choice point”.

When women figure this out – it’s wonderful, they are like honey to bees, because they just keep dancing out of the reach of the relationships that just will not work…because they know what they want.

And the right bee is out there, and when they share their honey together, it really is magic. Really.

When we ask: What am I doing? That’s when real change is possible.

To get there, we can’t just say – oh I’m over my childhood stuff with mom and dad , cleared and released. Instead we drive forward for :

Forgiven, and the free-flowing gratitude for  our parents, who held to their steadfast behaviours that caused me to “wake up” and say – “hey I want something different here”

Go Ahead: Ask the questions:

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I can do this!

“Who Am I?”
What do I want?
What would it look like?
What stops me from getting that?

What do I have to deal with in my own behaviours?
Am I 100% satisfied with myself?
Do I know how to go with the flow,
Let things go?
Relieve stress and anxiety, tension and even discharge anger ?

What do I have to do to get all this?
What steps do I take?
What books do I read?

Am I worth committing to? Am I the person I know I can be – all the time?

So, a set of goals, a bit of work, some commitments to taking this work personally…

Then what happens next is really up to you, because at the very least you will not be afraid of your personal history, you will have shifted that forever, into personal awareness so you never again find yourself stuck without resources to help yourself.

The crazy thing I found out in my self discovery process is this NLP training we do, and I took, is designed specifically to hit these targets, to create awareness and open us to our real self, perhaps the scariest aspect of knowing oneself is connecting to it all.

Some of the keys to self discovery are letting of of those crazy beliefs we’ve agreed to:

Masterfully handle family issues, with awareness of your own choice points
No longer controlled or manipulated by guilt or anger
Skillfully design and create the life you want
Orientate yourself to your goals and moving towards what you want, instead of away from, because of fear, guilt, lack of confidence in yourself
Know what your personal goals are
Set a campaign to achieve them in a timeline that is yours, then projecting and future pacing it into your future
Knowing what you want, and celebrating when you get it – celebrating the self, rather than expecting others to
Knowing the difference between sorting from the inside, to sorting from the outside – both are essential to navigating life, and experience, however, there are time, when only you and yourself know what is truly needed
Achieving milestone goals
Remaining active in creating the life you want
Adjusting what isn’t working quickly and efficiently rather than hoping things will change

Masterful personal change work starts with knowing what you want.

This is not a therapy, NLP doesn’t work like that, NLP operates somewhere much deeper on the level of knowing how we communicate with each other. How you communicate in your relationships whether business or personal relationship or even specifically to yourself,
NLP provides the tools to help you reveal your personal communication style, the way you process information, how you view the world, what your beliefs are, changing those historical markers that you used to believe created your problems. Getting real with who you are, helping yourself first, and feeling amazing about it.

NLP doesn’t hold a behaviour judgement either, it doesn’t need to. Leave that one to the therapist’s chair.
NLP steadfastly observes communications and the process we use to achieve the outcome, whether we like it or not, or even want to change something, NLP doesn’t hold an opinion on that.
It simply says “This is what you are doing to achieve this”.  Now, “is it what you want?”

Want to change it? Ok, then we use the same tools and skill sets to achieve that too.

So think about this, where are you right now? Do you know what you want? What’s important to you? How many times have you stopped yourself from getting what you want? If you speak your truth what happens? If you say “this is what I want” how do you feel about that? What if you have an opportunity before you – do you back away fearful of the challenges? Tell yourself I’m not good enough? No one will listen to me? My father said I was …. My mother always….

 

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Team Work

So what’s the point of those stories in your life? Are you ready to change them? For good?

Contact me and lets get started – after all this is Your Life.

Today is a new day…

No mistakes in it

Its just begun, and what are your thoughts?

Where are you placing your focus?

Yesterday, last week, a month ago?

Or is there fear and worry about something you must do today?

Or next week?

Or the new job, or interview today?

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Lifes’ choices

What stops you?

What behaviours do you use to keep yourself fearful and worried?

What stories do you tell yourself?

What movies are you revisiting?

What don’t you want to change?

Do you know what must change?

How do you answer all of this in your mind, right now?

You know what you know… and you know what stops you.

Lets change that